I am a Canna Mom. I make this statement proudly, yet we live in a society where many moms who do smoke will choose to do so in silence, not wanting to deal with the judgment and criticism of others. Worse yet – that their children will be taken by social services. I refuse to hide my use of cannabis, despite being judged. I’m here to tell you all the ways it helped me get through pregnancy and the early stages of motherhood.
While I was pregnant, a girl who I have not talked to in over 8 years sent me a message via Facebook. This is what she had to say:
“I honestly think it’s so disgusting how you are smoking pot during your pregnancy and don’t even try to deny… You should be ashamed of yourself for harming that child with that shit. If you can’t be a good parent then you probably shouldn’t have gotten pregnant. I mean come on Jen 7 months pregnant hitting a joint wtf is wrong with you!! I’ll be making sure everyone knows what kind of parent you really are!”
Disdain and persecution like this are not fair, but neither is it uncommon. Had this girl chosen to do some research instead of cyber-bullying me over social media, she may have realized that cannabis is WAY safer during pregnancy than she had assumed. If fact, it’s safer than most (if not all) pharmaceutical drugs while pregnant. I have done the research, and that is why I will choose cannabis over pharmaceutical drugs any day.
Pre-pregnancy, I was a frequent cannabis user. I wasn’t planning on motherhood, so when I found out I was carrying a baby I instantly cut back my regular usage; however, pregnancy is no cakewalk. Hollywood glorifies pregnancy as this magical experience where women glow and feel fabulous. Newsflash ladies, it’s all a lie! Yes, some women love it, those lucky few. I hated it for so many reasons. I won’t go into all the gross details (moms will know what I mean) but I will mention that I had 9 months of morning sickness and all-day nausea, an inability to sleep, body aches and pains, depression, and; eventually, this terrible inability to shave my own vagina. I even ended up in the hospital with food poisoning! TWICE!
Throughout my pregnancy, the doctors tried prescribing me pharmaceutical drugs for my morning sickness, sleeping, pain, and allergies. None of the drugs offered had been on the market for longer than 10 years, and therefore long-term effects were still unknown. This made me feel very uneasy about using any of them. There was; however, something that I knew would help – naturally-grown cannabis.
Now, it wasn’t like I was smoking a lot, as I was only using it medicinally. I had completely given up recreational use and began smoking out of necessity. Times when the baby wasn’t getting any nutrients because my nausea was so bad, or when I was so sleep deprived and in pain I was barely functioning.
When it came time to have my daughter I had to go the C-section route, which was something that I was extremely nervous about given that it was my first surgery. She came out extremely healthy at 8 pounds 4 oz (despite the misbelief that cannabis use causes low birth weight). After the surgery, they gave me (and every woman who has a C-section) three pills that included an anti-inflammatory (cannabis does this), an antibacterial (this too!), and a Dilaudid for pain (three for three?).
While breastfeeding (and after the stress of the C Section subsided), my partner asked what was in the pills they gave me. We learned that Dilaudid is a form of hydromorphone, which is an opioid pain medication that crosses into the bloodstream. We both told the doctor we didn’t agree with me taking the Dilaudid because I was breastfeeding, and decided against their wishes to stop taking it. Doctors are okay with giving you addictive drugs that will go through your bloodstream, into your milk, and to your child. Many are not ok with cannabis, a natural plant that has not been proven to be addictive at all. Being a Mom, you have to learn about this stuff and make your decision wisely.
The next day my partner returned with some cannabis-infused edibles. I had about 50mg of THC, and in about an hour, I was up and moving around for the first time since my surgery. Cannabis was clearly the safer alternative to the doctors’ prescribed medications.
A fun fact you probably didn’t know yet is that since the beginning of evolution, women (and men) have an endocannabinoid system, and the body naturally produces cannabinoids in breast milk. In fact, human breast milk is an abundant source of endocannabinoids, but more specifically; a type that basically teaches a newborn how to eat. If not for the cannabinoids in our breast milk, newborns may not know how to eat or necessarily have the desire to do so. Similar to how adults get the “munchies,” a newborn child who is breastfed naturally receives doses of cannabinoids, which trigger hunger and promote growth and development.
So, to all the Canna Moms of the world, let’s unite! Let’s be proud of our parenting choices, and choose not to feel guilty next time we want to smoke a joint. Let’s remember that parenting is hard enough without worrying about being judged or bullied for the way WE choose to raise our babies. As they are safe and healthy, that’s all that really matters.
Jennifer Loudonio is a proud Canadian, born and raised in Ontario, now living in beautiful British Columbia. She is a mom to the most beautiful, smart little girl, along with her dog Molly the Labradoodle.
Jennifer attended school and earned degrees in Special Event Planning & Hospitality and Protection, Security, And Investigation. The “Jenny of all trades”, sort of speak. She is a very ambitious & creative individual who has a passion for photography, event planning, creating handcrafted artwork pieces, modeling, and fashion. An advocate of cannabis. Jennifer loves, supports, encourages, and has strong opinions on cannabis.
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